Thursday, September 30, 2010

Intent

Yesterday, we submitted our letter of intent to adopt specific children. We are expecting to get the formal referral in October. That would put our travel in November or December. Could we have a Christmas with the whole family together? All six kids?

Yes, that's right. We're planning to adopt three more children. The ones named in our letter of intent are two girls and a boy, ages 6 to 11, from the northern part of Peru. They have moved between a couple of orphanages, but most recently have been living together in the same home with a married couple as houseparents. They are not children we met when we went to Peru, but they have interacted with other American volunteers and orphanage staff. We are not allowed to post names, pictures, or details until after the adoption is final and they are in the US.

As you might imagine, we thought long and hard about whether to adopt a single child, a pair, or the three. In the end, we chose these children for several reasons. First, they are the youngest children for which we are qualified, per our home study. With siblings in place, adopting younger children is often recommended. Second, we like the idea of getting both a boy and a girl, and that combination wasn't available in any sibling group of two. Third, we want to do as much as we realistically can, to help as many children as we can. If necessary, we would adjust other aspects of our lives to make room and time for this many children. Fourth, we believe that parenting three children who are apparently healthy and doing well in school might be no more stressful than parenting two, one of which has an established disability.

We ask for prayer that the process would move as quickly as possible from now on. We have already started to think of these children as ours, and the more time they can spend with us before starting school in January, the better for them.

One nice aspect of the process is that Peru and the agency don't require more fees for multiple children than for one. There are additional costs for medical care, follow-up visits from the social worker, etc. but nothing major. On the positive side, the adoption tax credit applies per child. With three children, we actually expect to be fully reimbursed for all of our adoption expenses through federal tax refunds over the next few years. So far, we haven't done any fundraising to support the adoption, because we know we'll eventually be reimbursed. In a sense, you're supporting the adoptions of our family and others just by working and paying your taxes.

However, the decision to adopt three children will increase our travel costs over what we had planned, and we will be getting some new furniture and educational materials this Fall. If you would like to help financially, my PayPal account is my personal, Cubs-oriented email address. If you don't know it, contact us. I don't want to put it on the blog, to prevent spam. Or, you can just send a check. We promise to spend every dollar on the kids, if nothing else, at least for more Christmas presents!

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Dossier is at SNA. We are thankful?

We recently heard that our dossier was translated and submitted to the SNA (National Adoption Secretary) on August 27. It usually takes three weeks for the dossier to go through three committees. Each committee could ask for further information. The most common question is something for the psychologist to answer, as the committees think about how the family would work with children of different ages, etc. It's easy to get impatient at this point, but the questions can usually be answered quickly and it does help make the best match for the child.

Since we will have submitted a letter of intent for a particular child, we hope there won't be any further questions, and our case will proceed quickly. There is a chance that we would be approved prior to the next conference ("consejo"), which is scheduled for September 22. Failing that, an October match seems like a near certainty. At that point, we will apply to the USCIS for clearance on the specific child, which takes about a month. Then we would be able to travel, perhaps over Thanksgiving. I'm not sure if there are any turkeys in Peru, but some arroz con pollo would be very nice!

We are asking some last-minute questions and confirming which children are available before sending our letter of intent. There are a lot of factors to balance, but we seem to be in agreement about what we would like to do, if it's possible. Along with WWJD, I ask myself, WWSD? That is, what would super-dad Steve (Douglas) do?


"I adopted. Why don't you?
Ernie was a little nerd and
Dodie was annoying, but
I loved them anyway."

Stay tuned! We won't be giving out many details about the child(ren) on the blog, but will share some general information.

I'll close with a little My Three Sons trivia:

Q:In the 12th season, when Katie and the triplets stayed with Steve and Barbara, where did Robbie go?




A: To build a bridge in Peru.